How to make more money, how to get a better job, how to have more friends, how to have a better marriage, the list goes on and on.  These are the kinds of questions people send me as part of the website.  Everyone wants to know the answers to the same types of questions.

I will let you in on a secret, there aren’t any answers… there is really only one answer.

Help More People

The way to get everything everyone wants is one simple thing, you should help more people.  Now I know this sounds all “California ….read more

When you look at failed goals, dreams, interpersonal conflict, problems at work; the number-one factor in is actually very simple.

It can be summarized as “stated or implicit promises not kept.”

A personal goal or a commitment is simply promising to yourself that you want something and will do what it takes to achieve it.

In the military, we made a whole bunch of promises – to uphold the Constitution, to never leave a fallen comrade, to do what needed to be done.

You make promises ….read more

Effective leadership is not about making speeches or being liked; leadership is defined by results not attributes.
~Peter Drucker
Almost everyone of us leads something. It might be team at your job, could be a Special Forces A Team, perhaps a volunteer organization or even your child whether you are the mother or father.  Leadership is a key factor in their success and yours too.
 Back when I was in the military in the Special Forces, we had good, not so good and even bad leaders.  The success of the team really depended on their leadership ability.  The trouble is that many ….read more

The headset crackled in my ears, but the countdown didn’t yet begin.  We were stacked on a door of a target that we were conducting a Close Quarter Battle (CQB) training mission on.  The explosive charges had been placed on doors, snipers were in over watch ready to fire if we were compromised.

My right leg started shaking. You probably know the feeling. You might have done some rock climbing or you might have climbed a ladder painting your house and experience what is known as sewing machine leg.  Your ….read more

Sit back, relax.

Close your eyes. Listen to my words:

You have a great need for other people to like and admire you. You have a tendency to be critical of yourself. You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.

While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them. Your sexual adjustment has presented problems for you. Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing.

You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations. You pride yourself as an independent thinker and do not accept others’ statements without satisfactory proof. You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.

At times you are extroverted, affable, sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, reserved. Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic. Security is one of your major goals in life.

Does this describe you?  Does it strike uncomfortably close to home?

If you say no, are you telling the truth?  Because over 85% of the people who hear this, say it applies to them. That just isn’t Americans, that’s worldwide.

The Forer Effect

What you read above is know as the Forer Effect or otherwise known as the generic horoscope.  This description was given in 1948, psychologist Bertram R. Forer to his students telling them it was crafted ….read more