Practically everything you deal with in life is about attitude. The attitude you have determines how you handle problems and situations, how you will react and how you will strive for excellence, or not. You do not need to have a hauty attitude to be more assertive, but you do need to have an attitude that empowers you. The cool thing is, once you start asserting yourself, an empowered attitude will follow.
Your attitude, good or bad, shapes your life. People with a positive attitude handle problems better, don't get as stressed out and have more over-all happiness. Their lives aren't always a bed of roses but they have learned how to deal with life's obstacles in a positive manner.
People with negative attitudes seem to have the worst luck and rarely ever look at or even see the bright side of things. In essence, they attract more negative situations to themselves just as positive people tend to attract more positive things.
If you study people for very long and are aware of the law of attraction you will notice that there is absolutely something going on between a person's attitude and what happens to them. If you want to be more assertive and become more popular, so to speak, you definitely need to give a lot of attention to your attitude.
You can start by thinking more assertively. Decide that you aren't going to be the quiet person always sitting in the corner. When you change your attitude and your thinking, these things will begin to change on the inside as well. Before long, people will notice a difference in you and you will begin to attract new people to you.
Now, none of this will happen overnight, anything you want to change in your life takes time and a little bit of patience, but it is worth the effort you put into it. Bad things will still happen around you, but how you deal with them will improve.
So, how can you develop a better attitude and start being more out-going and assertive?
First of all, you need to tell yourself that you are worth it and deserve to have the life you want. This is not lying to yourself, you truly are worth it. Start seeing yourself as deserving of nice things and having better friendships.
Second, this is something you need to work on daily. It may be difficult at first, but you must commit to improving yourself every day. It's best if you use some type of affirmation several times a day. It will take awhile for it to stick, but it does get easier.
Third, don't let other people pull you down or bring you back down to where you were. This can be the most difficult obstacle you will face, so be prepared for it. You are in control of your attitude and your mood. Never give that control over to others. If you need to walk away from these people and regroup, then do so. If your best friend is exceptionally negative all the time and it brings you down, stop hanging with them so much.
Fourth, Do not feel guilty if you need to cut ties with people that bring you down. People who love and care for you will support your efforts to change. People who only want your sympathy and want you to have a miserable outlook like they have do not care about you. They only care about having an ally in their unhappiness.
Becoming a more out-going and assertive person does take time and effort. You may run into a lot of obstacles and people around you may resent the idea at first. However, if you keep at it, you will discover more happiness and more peace. Those around you will start to notice a difference and may even want tips on what you have done to change yourself.
What are you doing to cultivate a get er done attitude? Leave a comment, I read them all.