Nothing happens overnight, and success doesn’t generally arrive overnight unless you are a prodigy, or it is, in fact, the result of many years of working towards a particular goal. When problems arise and difficulties set us back, it is essential to keep sight of the long term vision, and not to become discouraged.
Part of getting results in whatever you want is building in a commitment to pick yourself up and start again, should set back or disaster strike. In fact, it is really a question of learning from any mistakes you make, analyzing how and why things didn’t work out as planned, and making sure lessons are learned for the future (and mistakes are not repeated.) I talk about the value of After Action Reviews (AARs) in my book “Get Er Done: The Green Beret Guide to Productivity. “ AARs are beneficial to show how everyone, even just yourself viewed on something occurred, what went right, what went wrong and what can be done better in the future.
Learning can, and has to be an on-going consistent process. By having a consistent process of looking at what you have done in an impartial, non judgmental manner you are setting yourself up to learn from your past without carrying along any of the emotional baggage.
So make sure you don’t fall into the habit of blame when things don’t go right. Your self esteem or self image is not directly linked to any one project, any one target, or any one goal. Your self respect and self esteem is linked to your ability to deal with things as they occur in life. Finding solutions to problems is important, but the process is also important. I am in the middle of writing my next book at the moment where I talk about Achieving the Green Beret Way. In this book, I explore how important it is to not concentrate on blame, but rather concentrate on the future on what you want to happen or rather the solutions you want to occur.
Someone once explained to me the difference between being problem centered and solution oriented. If all you can do is think about the problem, you are not really working your way to a solution. The problem is what is going to occupy your thoughts. That is not a very healthy way to walk around, just thinking of problems. Having what you want to occur in the forefront of your mind will serve you much better. If you are determined to find the right outcome, you will be able to see the problem clearly and what is possible to move past them to get the results you want.
The path to getting results can only really begin when we learn to stop feeling guilty, or worried about past events and actions. In other words, allowing your life chances to be held back by being stuck on old problems or experiences. Get committed to positive results in the future. Consistently take action that moves you closer to these goals.